I wasn’t born with it

The first 4 years my hubby and I were married we were in college full-time and it led to bad housekeeping habits. (Not that I was great at keeping up with housekeeping before) Piles of dishes, clothes and stuff everywhere and then we tackled multiple home construction projects during various breaks from school. I’m sure some of my christmas village decorations still have sheetrock and plaster dust on them from that season in our lives.

Then we graduated, moved and had jobs with normal hours. Unfortunately, rather than taking advantage of those extra hours to start some good habits in regards to our housekeeping, we just sat around and watched shows on hulu.com. Truthfully, we did more than that but we took full advantage of not having any homework to do!

A year later our first baby arrived, Abigail. We now had sleepless nights, work, daycare, diapers and spending quality time with our daughter. No good housekeeping habits started during that season either.

Then, our second baby arrived, Elsie, and I quit my job to stay home with both girls. Suddenly, I was faced with dirty dishes, diapers, clothes and dog hair everywhere. I wanted to get and keep things clean but I really struggled as I nursed Elsie 24 hours a day (it seemed like) and was potty training Abigail. Our baby would sleep for maybe 30 minutes at a time and our toddler stopped taking naps. When I would try to clean up their room Abigail would cry and say she liked everything out. Oh boy, I knew then that I was in trouble. I needed to get this house under control so our kids understand how nice it is to have a clean place to play and be able to find their toys easily.

Funny how housekeeping habits didn’t materialize when it was just my hubby and I. ๐Ÿ™‚ It was easy to just put it off until later. Now that we have little ones in the house and the chaos is in my face everyday I see the importance of a clean house. The importance of teaching them very young to help clean up because hopefully I will foster better habits in them than I possessed for most of my life.

I was not born with the innate ability to keep a perfectly clean house. Or even a mostly clean house. I have to work hard at it. I am comfortable with just a little bit too much mess around. Unfortunately for me once it gets too messy I have a hard time figuring out where to start and how best to get it all done. As I get in the habit of keeping one area of the house pretty picked up I hope it will allow me to get to some of the other areas too. And at some point I will be able to say the whole house is clean. ย Even on a day when the only people who will see it are Terry and the girls.

This week I am doing a trial run of some weekly goals. I am starting out pretty small because I want to be able to accomplish them and add some more. If I feel defeated the first week then I won’t stick with it.

Goals for this week:
Run dishwasher and put away dishes twice (unless there aren’t that many dishes to wash)
Wash two loads of cloth diapers
Wash two loads of other laundry
Tidy living room before hubby gets home three times. (Bonus for vacuuming too)
Feed the girls fruit with lunch at least four times

Today I got the living room cleaned up and vacuumed before Terry got home, cleaned up the floor of our coat closet (which was a mess of shoes and bags) and i picked over 2 gallon bags (approx 6-7lbs) of green beans from the garden. Also, both girls ate protein and fruit for lunch.ย  It was a good day! ๐Ÿ™‚

3 thoughts on “I wasn’t born with it”

  1. Your NOT alone at all! The steps/goals are great! I’m going through the same thing right now, these sites are some I use/read/get inspired through:

    I WANT to do the 31 day challenge at homemakerschallenge.com someday soon…once the kids are back in school maybe.

    This is a blog of a family friend, she did the 31 days to clean challenge and posted pictures…a REAL inspiration, and with what she has (all the kids and homeschool) I get encouragement.

    The Happy Housewife is awesome, loads of organization, cleaning,meals, LIFE useful stuff.

    I’m trying to reorganize and clean right now, so I post my progress on my blog (ryandbec.blogspot.com). Also with before/after pictures for accountablity and some stories along the way.

    Good luck! I know you CAN do it! Your doing great so far!

  2. I can totally relate. People might think that because I sell Norwex (mostly cleaning products) and write an organizing blog, that my house is super clean & tidy. Um, no. I have 3 small children! I struggle with things like the hand-washed dishes (usually sit on the counter for 3 days) and vacuuming (because that would require a toy-less floor). And with the way nap times are falling lately, I have no childless time in my day until they go to sleep at night, and that’s when I choose to hang out with Clayton.

    I think you’re doing a great job with setting weekly goals though. I do somewhat similar goals. And I think the key is not getting down on yourself if you don’t accomplish all of them. Just move them to the next day/week/month and try again! ๐Ÿ™‚

    We should live closer together. We could hang out & give one of our houses an estrogen-overload!

    1. I am right with you! Thankfully Abigail is getting to be more helpful so even though she doesn’t nap I am able to get some stuff done while Elsie naps. If I spend my evenings after the kids are in bed cleaning then I don’t get to hang out with Terry.

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